Hello All! As Walter and I get closer to the next step of our DMP – fulfillment of an 8 year dream, I recognize that I have only so many hours in a day and oh so many tasks which require my attention.
I’ve learned that multi-tasking is not possible – multi-switching is. I’ve also embraced that while I had always prided myself on being able to “multi-task”, believing it to be the buzz word to have people want to work with me, this is not a good thing for me to do nor does it get what I want accomplished in the manner I wish to delivery.
Over 228 days ago I decided that I would write each evening for 365 days – and help myself become better at an area of my personality and being that I wish to improve on. I’ve reached the 60% mark and I want to ensure I maximize this experience.
I have therefore chosen to cease writing here for now – and continue on with DoWoo. Please feel free to join me there. I am blessed for your follow. I am grateful for your energy. I am in awe of the love and support from you.
May your day be filled with abundance and blessings!
I’ve written about being “squirreled” before which is the term we use in our household for being distracted (courtesy of the wonderful movie Up). I also use the phrase “multi-squirreling” in place of what others may refer to as “multi-tasking”. That age old question about whether we can walk and chew gum at the same time…I believe THAT is indeed possible. However, the rest of the stuff we try to do and consider ourselves “multi-taskers”….well, not so much.
I have embraced the concept that it is not possible to concentrate on 2 tasks at the same time – and do them both well. I have accepted we CAN do what I refer to as “multi-switching”. We can switch from task A to task B and back and forth. I realized that by doing this though it takes time to get back into the rhythm for each task. So…when I further consider how long it takes each time to get back into each task – I question whether I am being as productive as I could be? NOT!
Recently I’ve noticed an even further shift – my ability to tune out the sounds around me has lessened. I enjoy silence! I revel in silence! I find that I can be more creative and thorough in any task I undertake – as long as I am in silence.
I used to study with music going on in the back ground. I used to work with tunes at my desk. I used to have the TV on in the background while I sorted paperwork or folded laundry. I now find all of this distracting. When I stop and concentrate on the task at hand, it allows me to BE in the moment and truly embrace what I am doing.
Because silence has become more in keeping with my norm, I find I am now even more sensitive to sounds. This may not be such a good thing depending on whose perspective we are working with. I’ve always had what Walter refers to as “dog ears”. I can hear his watch ticking in the room next to ours when we sleep – so now the watch is left down in the kitchen.
As I’m typing, I heard a “chhhh-ch” sound and look up. I ask Walter what the sound was. Turns out he was switching screens on his phone – 2 desk widths away. He looks at me and asks “You heard THAT?”
The little sounds which disturb the silence now appear to be my squirrels. Walter asked me today what I will do if one of the natural animal sounds of Costa Rica is not pleasing to my sensitive hearing? I’m guessing…I will cross that bridge when we get there!
I have struggled in the past about what a Mastermind is and how my participation comes into play. In theory it is one or more people acting together, in harmony, to move one persons vision forward. What I had forgotten was…it wasn’t about me! LOL
When we are working with someone else’s vision, and we truly wish to help them get to where they wish to go…it really has nothing to do with any individual other than the one person whose vision we are working on.
In order to help others (one of my personal pivotal needs) I need to move out of my own way!
Once I stepped back and reminded myself it was about their dream…their vision…well, everything made sense. It is not a democracy where people vote and the majority rules. It is a forum to share ideas, discuss possible actions to be taken, it may even be an arena where everyone has been given the opportunity to voice their opinion, or complete certain actions as designated – BUT ultimately it is the one person whose vision we are ‘masterminding’ on that has the final say regarding the direction he/she wishes to take.
One of my dreams is to inspire others to reach their dreams. I observed today that it does not mean my dream has to come to fruition in order for me to inspire; although that can still be a viable catalyst. I realize…I can mastermind with someone to help move their vision forward and by doing so, my actions unto themselves may be inspiration enough.
Reprinted from original submission during 2013/2014 class
During our Master Key Experience week 22 session the class members were asked to fit in a significant period of silence at some point over the following two weeks. The recommendation was for up to three days. They mentioned a few hours may be ok but at least 24 hours would be preferred – basically the longer the better.
Until now we have been doing three 15-20 minute “sits” each day. Being still. Being silent. Now we were asked to maintain silence for a day or more. Whoa! Wow!
I know some people reacted with “How is this possible? I have a job? What about the kids? The dog? They don’t listen unless I talk to them.” I am not being critical of that thought process but have included it as it is an indication of what may be considered a ‘typical’ reaction in our fast paced world.
It is what it is.
At this stage of The Master Key Mastermind Alliance class – week 22a (or 24th week out of 28 total) I realize this is not about remaining in my comfort zone – it’s not about continuing to do what I have done in the past. It’s about looking at things differently in order to allow what I am looking at (including my entire world) to become different.
My reaction was “OK. How are we going to do this logistically?” Walter and I ended up having a conversation about what this would look like within our family dynamics – where would we be physically – how we would handle “work” – what about meal times – how to explain it to our son, etc. An experience of silence turned out to be something we needed to plan, to discuss and work towards.
I wonder….Why does it require so much effort to have nothing? The absence of speech, communication, the bombardment of society continuously whispering, talking, screaming into our daily lives.
Trish explained “no computer, no phones, no texting”. Mark told us we were not “Kissinger” and work could survive without us. Trish explained “no texting”. Mark suggested we take a vacation day from work. He commented the dogs should be able to figure it out with hand signals. Whew! Thank goodness I trained our puppy using both verbal and non-verbal communication.
I chose a 30 hour window and jumped in with both feet!
I imagined what it may have been like for my ancestors to choose silence. There were no computers. No phones. No mobile devices. Most people worked for themselves and therefore did not have to book a vacation day. They would have gone out to the barn and sat – been apart from the family – walked for miles with strictly nature and it’s creatures to keep them company in their personal realm of silence.
To commence my period of silence I chose to sit downstairs in our family room with the fire crackling in front of me. Silence? Not quite. I can hear the furnace to my right behind the utility room door. I hear the air flow being pushed through the heating vent. I hear my pen scratching against the paper…my hand brushing along it. I close my eyes and every sound intensifies allowing me to notice the hiss behind the crackle of the fire.
I am reminded of two types of silence: Prayer and Meditation. I have pondered this quite a bit over the years. As I was raised by a father who positioned himself as a devote Catholic I saw first hand what he termed “prayer”. Then during the last few years I have been able to embrace the concept of “meditation” which I liken to ‘allowing’ myself and the world around me to ‘be’. The difference in my experience:
For prayer one is usually asking for something – be it spiritual understanding, the strength to accomplish a particular feat, or the request to obtain something (sometimes materialistic but it could be food, clothing, water – necessities which may be in short supply). We ask for and discuss needs (be it for ourselves or for others). Prayer could also be the conversation one has with his / her source. It could certainly be a conversation which includes thanks for what has already been received or just sharing pieces on how the day went.
Meditation always seemed to be a lack of conversation. No matter what it is, mediation to me is a time where one embraces the silence and allows the world to be revealed. Allow me to pause from these thoughts (written during my silence) and I will come back to the word ‘revealed’.
Rather than include just the video, I wanted to allow you to see this from a Graphic Novel perspective. A small portion is not within the Bit Strip but hopefully I’ve captured enough for your viewing pleasure. Feel free to clink on the video thumbnail to hear the conversation as you read along.
This leads me back to the word I pondered during my silence:
Revealed – what a fascinating word. To reveal means something already exists and one is now choosing to allow others to see it, feel it, experience it. Is this where the ‘inspiration’ from mediation shows itself? Was it not already there?
You can reveal what is being served for dinner – with a flourish of a metal dome. You can reveal your true nature by your actions. You can reveal your authentic self by allowing the….you guessed it….silence.
I found myself gravitating back to Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in the World. I reread the book from the start till where we currently are reading Scroll VI. In summary thus far:
Today I begin a new life!
I greet this day with love in my heart!
I persist until I succeed.!
I am nature’s greatest miracle!
I live this day as if it is my last!
Today I am master of my emotions!
In my silence I pondered each of these affirmations again. I allowed the silence. Allowed the spirit to speak to me – to provide guidance in the form of intuition. I pictured myself as I intend to become. I really like this person I am becoming. I love what she has managed to accomplish in her desire to help and serve others. I am enthralled by the amount of dedication I have to reach the summit I am climbing. I am enthused by what my future is. I am the silence manifested into my reality.
I changed the way I looked at things and the things I looked at changed! Thank you for allowing me to share.
OK – am going to admit….this scroll is for me! Absolutely! Most definitely! We started reading Scroll VI (Og Mandino’s The Greatest Salesman in the World) this past week and WOW! It’s all about thoughts on how we are to ‘master’ our emotions. Notice this is not being in ‘control’ but being the ‘master’ of. Significant difference.
Being in control of something means there is resistance.
Being master of something should be effortless.
To take it even further, the Master Key Experience was timed (perfectly of course) to include techniques on how to turn thoughts of fear, guilt, anger, unworthiness and hurt feelings into tools meant to enhance our experience during this lifetime, to help us accomplish our dharma – all in the manner we were intended to do so (before the outside world and it’s BS – beef stroganoff – got a hold of us).
I have spent my entire life trying to ‘control’ my emotions – keep them in check – but they were always there! Now I find out that if we turn each of these draining emotion into a positive tool, or to take these feelings and attach a positive spin to it, not only are we able to master the feelings, we master the experience – allowing it to be what we want it to be.
My mother’s advise when I was a teen was to “please….please…find some kind of balance” since I was either really “high” (happy) or really “low” (sad, hurt, depressed, etc.). What did I do? I blocked the emotions. I surppressed them. Stomping them down into my core.
Was I able to control them? Yes.
Had I mastered them? Heck no!
Decades later I went through an extremely challenging time period in my career. I was no longer able to control my emotions. I went to the doctor and explained my symptoms…I was waking up at night crying, I was snapping at everything and everyone (especially those I loved with all my heart and this was tearing me up), and my left eye was twitching…it would not stop. What was wrong with me?
I was diagnosed with a form of stress and given medication. Years of medication! Medication which allowed me to ‘control’ my emotional state so I could continue to function at work, at home, in public. But I certainly did not ‘master’ anything. I found that it certainly did help to control the severity of the lows but you know what? It also toned down all the highs. I had finally done what my mother had recommended I learn how to do….I was at neutral.
Neutral is not a very nice place to be. You may not experience angst but you ALSO do not experience joy.
Once I made the decision to take back my life, it took me over a year but I finally got myself off the medication. It was just before we started the Master Key Experience – how very synchronistic.
(Courtesy of Og’s scroll IV) I am now in a position to be the…..
To everyone else who struggles…remember it IS possible to master your emotions. Do not allow anyone (including yourself) to take the highlights away from you. Experience your life without the haze.
Hop on and enjoy the ride for all that it is worth. We only get to be here, at this moment in time, as ourselves, once!
Thank you for allowing me to share!
Please drop by again. Carolynn Sokil
It’s all my fault – really – LOL! At minimum I am 100% responsible. Can you imagine that? I’m taking responsibility for my thoughts and my reality. That’s what we learn in the Master Key. If everything I think about grows, and what I think about becomes real, then I control what happens to me. I create my destiny.
I love it when people say “I told you so.” because they are right! When I was one of these people, I would imagine the worst and when it happened, I would say those dreaded 4 words to whoever I told of my imaginations. What I found out though was it was all about what I thought. Somehow. Sometime. Somewhere. This was a thought which manifested itself into reality.
Walter and I have known we were moving to Costa Rica for the last 8 years. However, since we seriously put it out there, set a date, commenced what needed to be done to actually drive this forward…we meet new people daily who have been there, know people who’ve been there, know someone with a villa, a cottage, a business, who retired there, has family there….
Do you get what I’m saying?
Everything falls into place for those who do the leg work. The adage “Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.” ― Seneca. The legwork is what we learn within the Master Key Experience.
I remember driving downtown Toronto for business each morning and once you get onto the Gardiner Expressway Eastbound before Spadina, there was an Inglis sign which had a new quote or saying each day. I distinctly remember “Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation leans on the doorbell.– Unknown
Temptation does not get me anywhere because it’s still leaning on the doorbell – which means no one has answered the door. I’m not waiting for opportunity to knock – that would be like waiting for the lottery.
I am creating my opportunity which is creating my reality.
And I must say…I’m having a blast!
Wanna join me?
If you change how you look at things – the things you look at change!
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Why you ask? Y you ask? Hmmm interesting letter – the 25th one in the alphabet.
Excerpt from the transcript for the above video “…what are nonverbal expressions of power and dominance?”
“So in the animal kingdom, they are about expanding. So you make yourself big, you stretch out, you take up space, you’re basically opening up. It’s about opening up…..This expression, which is known as pride, Jessica Tracy has studied.”
She shows that people who are born with sight and people who are congenitally blind do this when they win at a physical competition. So when they cross the finish line and they’ve won, it doesn’t matter if they’ve never seen anyone do it. They do this. So the arms up in the V, the chin is slightly lifted.”
“What do we do when we feel powerless? We do exactly the opposite. We close up. We wrap ourselves up. We make ourselves small.”
“…our bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior, and our behavior can change our outcome…”
After everything we have learned during these past 18 weeks, we continue to be challenged – to open our minds – to realize againhow what we put in (to our minds, our bodies, our thoughts) truly affects what comes out (of our minds, our bodies, our thoughts).
My son came home from school on Thursday. He immediately informed me during gym they had a speed walking race and he won the gold medal. He was ecstatic. He started talking about being in the Olympics. Is this where it starts? A seed planted in a young man’s mind – belief both mentally and physically – that he can accomplish great feats? All I know is that I will continue to encourage him to be all that he can imagine himself to be – guiding him through life’s interesting and sometimes challenging situations (opportunities in disguise) with all that we have learned.
Disclaimer: All characters appearing in the following work are somewhat fictitious. Any resemblance to real persons, living or dead, is purely non-coincidental.
Try it. You’ll like it. It may become addictive! That’s a good thing…really…a very good thing indeed!
Many blessings and thanks goes out to my ‘teach our kids’ (aka T.O.K.) mastermind alliance group. You are helping me to help others. I am grateful to have you in my and my family’s life.
Thank you for dropping by this week.
Hands up baby! Hands up!
“I will live this day as if it were my last.” – Og.
Have, and am, experiencing two totally different types of family situations regarding funeral planning at this time. Walter’s mom passed 10 days ago and my mom is now in hospice and is not anticipated to be with us for long. Walter’s mom planned all her funeral choices almost 30 years ago whereas my mom did not. This has resulted in her children now making a number of these decisions for her.
I have to admit I’ve struggled with this the past few weeks. I know I am of a different bent than my siblings on a number of philosophies. In this case I am of the opinion (sorry this may just be one of those areas I cannot just observe) it is up to the individual to choose how they wish their send off to be managed. The caveat being, that if someone dies unexpectedly, some decisions may have to be made without their input. However, if they are still aware and able to converse, why would we not ask them their opinion?
People plan for their demise all the time – they choose life insurance, they make a will and update it, they sign a non-resuscitate order (if that is their position) and some even complete a donor card which may be attached to their drivers license. So, why is it some have not consider what they want done for their send off?
I’ve already explained to Walter most of my wishes…and have even recently mentioned to Gregory that I wish to be cremated and then buried under a tree so as it grows, it may carry a piece of me with it. He suggested I consider a tree which flowers in the spring time so not only will the tree grow but it will also be full of beauty. Love this idea!
So…I wonder, is it supposed to be up to the living to plan their own send off or should it be put to the remaining living to decide for the deceased, hoping to properly fulfill the wishes of their loved one? Or it could be that the funeral is for the living…so allow the remaining living to choose.
I don’t believe there is a ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ answer here. It may be simply that any answer will depend on each individual situation. I observe that while I prefer to have structure and guidelines I’m sure my mom’s situation will evolve as it is meant to. And as the answers unfold, I pray I am able to represent my mom in a manner that she would want.
This blog is meant to elicit conversation. So please, I ask of you, share your perspective for this case. I am appreciative of any mastermind thoughts on the situation. Gracias!
Was speaking to a colleague today about our journey – in that we have less than 145 days until we are to be living in Costa Rica. She commented that we had “balls” to make such a change and so many people would like to do what we are doing but so few actually do.
Why is that?
Why are people not following their bliss? Living their dreams? Taking giant risks which will allow for an equal or greater return?
I’ve always thought it was because they just didn’t have the gumption or the financial wherewithal to do so. While this may be the case, I’ve learned something even more profound – and sad at the same time – many people do not have a dream to set their sites on.
Interestingly in typing what I just did…I recalled our “Loud Smiles” main landing page…so I flipped over and read what I wrote over 8 years ago:
Our Parents taught us the basics of life and structure of family dynamics. Schooltaught us to learn, apply, memorize and reiterate to obtain graduating grades. Higher Education expanded our knowledge, the goal to provide a “career”. Workprovided compensation for our time, in exchange for vacation and benefits.
Who taught us to dream? How to envisionwhat we really want out of life? To questionwhat we plan to offer life in return? How to make our dreams a reality? How to ensure our kids have the chance to dream?
This was prior to The Master Key class which expanded my thinking. Before I understood the true power of our mind. Prior to recognizing my world without (my external reality) is a direct reflection of my world within (my internal reality).
I originally wrote this landing page with the intent to inspire others to think outside of their ‘proverbial’ box, keep an open mind so they too could reach their dreams – ultimately leading them to our network marketing concept. Upon reflection this evening I realize I may have wrote this for a different vehicle – the Master Key Experience. I just did not know it at the time but it is possible the Universe conspired to provide me an opportunity to experience what I needed in order to fulfill my words – providing me with the tools to understand so I could then reach out to others, allowing them to benefit from this knowledge.
How far back do the connections and re-directions go which created what we now have in front of us – whatever we imagined fulfilled? Was it when I was 9 and wished upon the first star at night asking for happiness? Was it when I was 14 and started to consider what I wanted to do for a living…and all I could think of was that it did not matter,as long as I was happy? Today, I am of a similar bent, and it’s still all about being happy.
I now know – all I have to do to be happy, is choose happy!
Imagine teaching our kids that lesson now? First…we need to embrace it ourselves.
If you change how you look at things – the things you look at change!
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During my read of the Master Keys Week 17 (Charles Haanel) this morning the end quote struck me more than it has previously “Thought is the property of those only who can entertain it.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Stay with me here!
We have recently started watching the series The Young Indiana Jones Chronicles. The show follows a young Indy who experiences adventures around the world, with the current show centered around a young boy about our son’s age. Adventures are right in line with Greg’s preferences – and as a bonus for us parents, they typically include some form of life lesson for the young viewer to learn from (which is every parent’s joy when watching a show with your impressionable child – right?).
The 2nd episode we watched had Indy and his friend (a young Norman Rockwell) traversing the streets of Paris during the period of Degas and Picasso. A follower of the artist explained Picasso’s style of painting was called “Cubism” where “all form can be broken down into cubes”. Wiki references “In Cubist artwork, objects are analyzed, broken up and reassembled in an abstracted form—instead of depicting objects from one viewpoint, the artist depicts the subject from a multitude of viewpoints to represent the subject in a greater context.”
Pablo Picasso was roaming the streets of Paris during the early 20th century. Charles Haanel published The Master Key System in 1912. Coincidence?
Master Key 17:32“This is because the Spirit of a thing is the thing itself, the vital part of it, the real substance. The form is simply the outward manifestation of the spiritual activity within.”
Now, jump a 100 years into our current time and consider what our young men are creating with: Minecraft – a world made up of small squares – cubes – everything is cubes! And don’t forget everything you are looking at here – on your screen – are made up of pixels – little tiny cubes.
I wonder…what would Picasso have made of/with Minecraft?
If you change how you look at things – the things you look at change!
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